Tips on how to Be a More Confident Mom
Being a mom is all about self-confidence. There will be days when you are at your wits end, feel like nothing is going right and lose that confidence that you have it all under control. Truthfully, motherhood is difficult. Each day of parenting brings about new challenges, emotional roller coasters and challenging situations to handle. As a mom there’s also the pressure to do everything right and not damage your kids. We want the best for our childrena nd we want to be the best mom for them, but we all fall short at times. Today I am going to share tips on how to be a more confident mom so that you can rest easy knowing that you got this!
You Know Best
The first step to being a more confident mom is to accept that you know best. You are the one who gave birth to this child or children, spent each waking moment with them and watched as they grew each day. When it comes to your children, you are the one who knows them better than anyone. It is helpful to take advice from others who have been in similar situations but at the end of the day, you have to do what you think and feel is right.
One Size Doesn’t Fit All
There are many places to get tips and tricks on parenting. It is valuable to study those ideas and incorporate the ones that match your child’s needs and your own parenting style. No matter what unsolicited advice you receive from other people, learn to accept the advice and walk away either using it in a way that works for your mom journey or simply removing it from your mind. There is no one size fits all way to go about raising kids and your self-confidence can really take a hit if you try to be someone that you are not just to avoid criticism. Always remember that you are going to make mistakes (so learn from them) and you are going to do a lot of things great. There is no right way to parent. Just trust your heart and do the best you can.
Be Who You Are
Each mom is different and every child is different. There’s nothing wrong with being a super strict or super laid back mom. If your kids are growing up to be little people that you are proud of then you are doing a good job. Your personality and beliefs are going to shape your children, so be true to who you are. If you have personality flaws that need adjustments then you need to make the effort to change. Maybe you need to get help for personal issues that are hindering your ability to parent. If you are doing your best and your kids are doing well then be confident that your approach in motherhood works best for you and your kids. Be who you are in motherhood so you always feel complete.
Remain Consistent
When it comes to raising kids most of us know that consistency rules all, but as a mom I can most certainly say that sometimes we fall off that consistency bandwagon. Stop giving yourself a hard time about the idea of remaining consistent and failing, instead focus on getting back up, dusting yourself off and start over again. Kids need to trust in the stability of your rules, your consequences and your love. When children know what is expected from you then they will be more self directed, more self assured and happier. Make sure that you are flexible in your parenting and negotiating, but always be consistent.
Invest in Relationships
Whether it’s friendships or your marriage, learn to take the time to invest in relationships. Having a social life as a mom is probably the number one way to be a more confident mom. When you have friends and family to confide in during times of high stress moments, you will find that your confidence is boosted as you work through the woes with positive people. Sometimes you can feel very alone, but confiding in other parents who are realistic and supportive can be just what you need to be a better mom. And make sure that you take time for YOU by having fun with friends (it shouldn’t always be about the kids) and being your own self instead of your mom self all the time. The better you know yourself, the better mother you are able to be for your kids.
Motherhood is all about learning to adapt and accept when mistakes are made as a means to be more confident. There is no one solution fits all when it comes to being a more confident mom, but I can tell you this – if you work to incorporate these tips on a regular basis, you will learn more about yourself and your children that will lead to you being a more confident mom.
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Ashley
Excellent advice for any mom to follow. As with all things, perfection isn’t key–the willingness to do better will always go the furthest!
The Jedi Wife
Being a mom i shard enough without others judging you for your actions. I just do the best I can with the information I have.
Sarah Bailey
These sound like some amazing tips for those who need to try and believe in themselves a little more when it comes to their mum skills.
Angela Tolsma
I love that you put invest in relationships. I think it’s important for moms to show lives outside their kids. Children do what they see more than what they hear.
Amber Myers
I love this post and I so agree with your advice. I’m always who I am. I know I might not parent how others do, but hey, it doesn’t matter!
Kristina
What great perspective you have. Perspective is key to happiness. Thank you for sharing.
Michelle
I think sometimes the hardest part is to not think you’re doing it wrong and trust your instincts. I have 4 boys and my relationship with each one is different, but they all require time and effort!
Great advice!
Kitty
Sounds like an interesting post… These are some great tips.. I am a new mom to be and may be these might help me a lot 😀
jtemcio
Congratulations on being a new mom. You are in for the best times of you life!
jtemcio
A mom to 4 boys! You must have a lot of loud fun and a few fart jokes at your house. I have two boys at home and it is silly every day!
jtemcio
My perspective comes from a life raising kids who are now 26, 23 and 14…and I am still fulfilling the role of their parent no matter their age!
jtemcio
I’m so glad that you have to self absurdness to do your own thing. When I was a young mom I admit that I was overly concerned with people’s impression of me and it made me high strung at times.
jtemcio
I did not do enough things for myself when I was a young mother. I didn’t realize it at the time, and I don’t regret it now, but I wish I would have tried harder to make good friends for me.
jtemcio
I learned this as I got older and more confident.
jtemcio
I love your confidence!! I think especially when the kids are really young is when people try to tell you the “best” way to raise your kids. It can make a parent feel uncertain. We need to remind new mothers that they can trust them selves more.
jtemcio
Exactly! Sincerely doing the best you can from a place of love is important. Learning to do better all the time is realistic in growth.
shanique
lol im no where close to being a mom but im surethese tips will help when its time
jtemcio
Being yourself for awhile before becoming a mom is a great thing!
Jessica Taylor
I love this post! Becoming a mom changes you, so its important to stay true to yourself.
Gayathri
Motherhood is hard enough without all the judgements and critcisms. Every mother loves their child in her own way and should feel adequate about it.
Angela Ricardo Bethea
Awesome advice to all of the moms out there. For me, I think all of the Moms should be proud of themselves for many things like delivering your little angel to this world and raising them to become a respectable adult.
David Elliott
Consistency is so important when it comes to confidence that you are doing the right thing. Adaptability is important but once you figure on the things that work, remaining consistent about those things save you a load of heart break. Great post!
Oyinkan
There’s no class on being a mom. I think intuition works best. It allows you to know what to do & when to do it.
Jennifer L
I don’t have kids but know my parents are amazing parents and they truly gave me a well balanced upbringing. I definitely believe that no glove fits all concept. Everyone has different parenting styles that work for their family.
Ophelia T
Great post. I think moms need to be more confident and show their affections to their families. Thanks for sharing.
Hoan Chau
I think I am going to share this post with my mom and hope that she will transform into a confident mom.I am not yet a mom but I think these are great advice since it is just about basic quality in doing anything not just raising a kid or being a mom. I’m saving this post for the future.
Suzanne Spiegoski
I think these are all such great tips. Consistency being one of the most important ones, though I’m not a parent I do believe it’s still very important. Great post! xo, Suzanne
Thena
Great advice, thank you for this post. I needed this today!
Margarette Puno
This is an amazing tips to all moms! I am going to share this with my friends. I want them to be more confident.
Ankita
I’m glad I found this post. You have shared a total experience of upbringing the kids in a better manner no matter if you want to be strict at times. Motherhood is all about growing and learning with your child, it’s a continuous effort that you take to shape your child’s future. Thanks for the share Jtemcio 🙂
Wildish Jess
One size definitely doesn’t fit all! If you could see the mom I was with my first compared to now it would blow your mind! lol
Liv
Ah what an awesome post I am yet to be a mom but I’ll save this for futur reference because I am sure I will have so many doubts
Melissa Storms
I struggle with being a confident parent. I try not to let my son see it though, it is like blood in the water for a teen, lol.