Couples Communication Compatibility Quiz

Is one of your New Year resolutions to have better communication with your mate this year? It is for me because when it comes to communication, my husband and I are in totally different worlds. He uses the least amount of words possible and backs that up with the least amount of details. Everyone knows that my catch phrase is “Fast and Easy” and that I am all about Conservation of Time, Streamlining, and Multitasking. . . but not when it comes to communication. I like a balance somewhere between every last detail and barely a crumb. As an example, we will be lying in bed (me reading my kindle and him reading the news on his phone)  and he will blurt out “Wow. That’s a lot of cats!” and then follow that with complete silence. (He does this frequently where he just throws out a tiny nugget of possibility and doesn’t elaborate.) This KILLS me because I like to know some DETAILS! #couples #communication #quiz @dapperhouse #men #women #dating #marriage #funny #humor

So I wait a minute or two (my eyes in slits and sighing loudly in my head) then against my better judgement I ask, “what about the cats dear?”

And he mumbles something like,  “Oh I don’t know, some person somewhere found a bunch of cats someplace.”

(GAAAAAaaaaaaHhhhhh!)

Then I repeat with intention, “But What About the Cats?”

To which he responds with his normal reply, “Oh, um, I am already reading a different story.”

(DOH!)

Then I lie there wondering what the heck happened with all those cats and he starts snoring never to think of the cats again.

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Many couples experience confusion and misunderstanding simply due to these types of issues in expressing one’s self verbally. Some of us need to hear things a certain way to understand. Others don’t need depth and get overloaded with too many details. This is why it is important for couples to work on compatible communication styles.

“Can  you relate? Do you like some background information and a few facts with your story? Does your man talk like a “typical guy” and make everything simplified by leaving out the obviously important details?”

Here is a test for you and your guy to take that will show your differences in communication. This can help you to understand each other’s styles and be more aware of how to improve future conversations. Or it will simply verify again that women communicate better than men! (Ha ha)

Test To Show Communication Styles:

1. Set a timer for exactly 3 minutes. Both of you look at the photo below. On your own separate pieces of paper write as many details as you can about the scene. (Do NOT attempt any sort of communication during this time.)

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2. After the 3 minutes are up, sit together and compare your notes. The types of details and the number of details will help you understand how the other person processes things. Then you can dialog about how you both can change the way you deliver details in future conversations to create a more balanced understanding.

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3. This exercise may prove that you provide too many details that are irrelevant to your guy (whether the people in the story looked good in what they were wearing, for example).  And he might realize that you like to hear more details about things, (like when he forgot to mention that his “important business lunch” consisted of him drinking beers with friends at the bar all afternoon).

“WHAT the – ” 

Getting together to find out more about each other is helpful in a relationship. Better communication can be a really good thing.

TIP: Set boundaries about how much you really want to know and how much you really want to divulge. (Like that new designer purse that you paid way too much for but just HAD to have) Do you really want to share everything with your mate? And do you want to know every gory detail about his day at work when you really only have an hour to read before bed while he is jabbering on and on and on about his day?

Conversation is a two way street and is important for couples to stay connected. I personally recommend texting as a wonderful solution to keeping in touch!

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What are your secrets to better communication? Leave them in the comments below to share with our dapper friends.

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25 comments

  1. Amanda Love says:

    I’m going to have to come back to this quiz since I’m on vacation and hubby isn’t with me. I don’t think he listens to me much so this should be fun to do. :)

  2. My husband and I definitely communicate differently. I often joke that he wears blue earphones while I shout from a pink megaphone.

  3. Shauna says:

    I think communication is one of the most important things in any relationship, whether with your spouse, child, or family member!

  4. Debbie Denny says:

    Really great goals. Communication is tops!

  5. Heather M says:

    My husband and I communicate so differently too. I love the picture where you are still thinking about the cats lol.

  6. Jennifer B says:

    Yes I can totally relate to your communication issues with your husband! My husband does the same thing!

  7. Angela S says:

    I don’t currently have a mate but definitely need to work on my overall communication skills with family and friends. I’ve really been stuck in the work zone lately, as I like to call it.

  8. Tina Ashburn says:

    I don’t have a mate, and I know my communication skills are great with the public, but not with my brother. I work on it all the time, but he doesn’t work on his, so I’m fighting a very difficult battle.

  9. Ave says:

    LOL! Love those photos :D Sometimes,my husband does the same thing too. It annoys me a lot!

  10. Megan says:

    Crackin’ me up with that text! Love it. Ours looks like that often as well. The hubs and I agree that when we stop communicating, there is a problem. If we are screaming and throwing things, atleast we are still communicating, albeit not very productively.

  11. LOL! This reminded me of how my husband says the dumbest stuff in his sleep! It really annoys me sometimes though. He does a great job at waking me up as I try to figure out what he means!

  12. kathy balman says:

    Lol great posy and totally true….except I think my hubby and I are reversed! Our secret is be best friends!

  13. Sharon says:

    My husband often laughs that I am like a shotgun. I have so many words that I have to get out and they don’t really hit anything particular . They just have to get out in the open. Communication is so important!

  14. Chrishelle says:

    My husband would say the most important part of our communication would be to turn the TV off. hahaha. I have no attention span when there are distractions. He says if there is anything he want to sneak in on me he tells me during CSI.

  15. I am going to take this quiz right now!

  16. LOL! Love the questions. I think communication is totally important if only we were not interrupted by our 5 kids in the process!

  17. This is hilarious! I know my husband and I definitely have very different ways of communication.

  18. My husband and I struggle a lot with communication. He rarely says anything. LIke, at all. It’s a challenge, because I am a BIG talker.

  19. Hubby and I definitely have different communication styles. Love the tip on marrying a man that cooks. I did!

  20. I am so doing this with my guy tomorrow. I’m super curious about whether we’re on the same wavelength about things!

  21. This post reminded me of all teh personality and other magazine tests my husband and I used to take year ago when we were newly married.

  22. Mandi says:

    I want to try that picture details thing… I can already imagine what my husband’s paper would say (full of wise cracks).

  23. Love this post! My husband and I are pretty good at communicating with one another, but I definitely give way more detail than I need to, lol.

  24. OMGosh I totally LOL’d at this!! That photo – and the descriptions – that’s TOTALLY US!! He teases me about my lengthy and detailed stories and says that I should just say it all in one simple sentence (like he does) haha. Too funny!

  25. OMG. There are days when I swear my hubby and I are on a different planet from each other. He tells me all the time to get to the point! lol.
    Will have to check out the quiz…that could be interesting!

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